A bunch of us bunker punks did a word swap where we each get a word (prompt) and have to write about it. Here's mine: Stop Bullies. I don't follow directions well but here goes...
Bullying is the use of force, threat, or coercion to abuse, intimidate, or aggressively dominate others. The behavior is often repeated and habitual. One essential prerequisite is the perception, by the bully or by others, of an imbalance of social or physical power. Behaviors used to assert such domination can include verbal harassment or threat, physical assault or coercion, and such acts may be directed repeatedly towards particular targets. If bullying is done by a group, it is called mobbing. Bullying is divided into four basic types of abuse – emotional (sometimes called relational), verbal, physical, and cyber - It typically involves subtle methods of coercion, such as intimidation.
If the definition above has been read and understood it should be obvious that most of these so called bullies are not bullies, they are just assholes. Assholes with big mouths, vendettas, poor upbringing, no manners, anger issues, the need to be popular, etc… Whatever it is, they aren’t bullies so stop calling them that. They are being given all this false power because of perception. Incorrect perception and the public’s ability to glom on to a phrase, overuse it, and generalize it, are real problems when it comes to issues like this. Can you say vicious cycle?
I do think bullying exists. I just don’t believe that it exists to the extent the mainstream media and overzealous bully hounds would lead us to believe. Every time a student gets called a name or laughed at because they are wearing bright orange pants or their socks actually match, is not a bully situation. This is called teasing. It’s going to happen. There is not one individual, no matter how cool or popular, who hasn’t experienced this. It’s human nature. We must not confuse teasing with being bullied.
When a kid gets hit at school because he or she acted like a jerk, or they’re arguing with their best friend, this is not bullying. If my Mini (12 year old middle school girl) fights every day with her friend at school, this is not bullying. This is kids being
Let me refer back to the definition listed above for a minute – specifically the underlined sections. Abuse, intimidate, dominate are key words here. These are serious infractions against another human being. So if my Mini is calling another student a bitch in passing is this bullying? Is there abuse or intimidation? Is she dominating? I think not. I call bullshit. Again, this is just my kid being
In my mind adults are incapable of being bullied in most circumstances. I find the usage of the term bully in conjunction with adults absurd. I’m aware of behavior out there that is out of control but as able bodied and minded adults we should possess the skills to obliterate this so called bullying before it begins. Should sexual harassment now be defined as being bullied sexually? Again I think that this is just a generalization of the term bully. We just categorize everything into one neat little package that makes us feel justified in calling everyone a bully because it’s a cool label. We love labels. It isn’t right and it pisses me off. This is absolutely ridiculous and adults participating in this farce should be ashamed.
Now that I have blabbed on forever in regards to bullying I’ll address the prompt: Stop Bullies. In my opinion there are only a few ways:
PPB aka The Precious Princess - The Princess is a twice divorced, recently dumped, recently unemployed, self-proclaimed member of the mentally hilarious. She has been referred to as living under a rock stocked with vodka and anger. Her 12 year old “Mini”, who is carbon copy of the Princess, is often the subject of blogs, and Facebook posts. In addition, she writes about dating, the dumbness of boys, life after 40, and shares stories from Bananaland which is both her past and current residence. She is the owner/sole admin for the Facebook page Precious Princess's Guide to Bananaland where she is famous for her rants and her blunt, honest, and sarcastic look at life. She blogs both extremely funny and all-the-feels posts at Princess Bananaland. She hates people, kids, and karaoke. She uses all the swears and makes up dirty words. Be afraid.